TOKYO - In the delicate dance of dating, women's seemingly innocuous actions can sometimes trigger anxiety in men. Let's delve into the psychological concerns that men may harbor during dates.
“流行りのメイク”を真似してデートに挑むが…⇒意外と気づかない！？男性がデート中に不安に思うこと
One such concern arises when a woman takes her smartphone to the bathroom during a meal. A 24-year-old man shares, "It makes me uneasy when she takes not just her purse or handkerchief, but her smartphone to the restroom. Even if it's just to check notifications, I can't help but worry if she's contacting another man." While checking smartphones every few hours is commonplace, doing so in the restroom during a date can be unsettling for some. If necessary, it might be wise to discreetly tuck the phone away in a bag to avoid drawing attention.
Another scenario involves the act of paying—or not paying—at the end of a meal. "Even if I plan to treat her, a woman who doesn't even pretend to reach for her wallet and just says 'Thank you' comes off as presumptuous," expresses a 30-year-old man. Some women may expect their date to always cover the bill, but failing to offer to pay can leave a negative impression. Especially on a first date, it's advisable to show a willingness to contribute to the payment.
The third anxiety-triggering behavior is when a woman glances at other men, particularly handsome ones, while walking down the street. "It's off-putting when she checks out other guys we pass by. I understand it's just a fleeting glance, but for a man with low self-esteem, it's uncomfortable," says a 33-year-old man. Paying attention to other potential interests during a date does not leave a good impression. It's important to focus on the person you're with.
Source: MDPR
